Self-love rituals for moms: Creating inner harmony even when you’re busy

May 9, 2024

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Being a mother is a journey of boundless love and unyielding dedication. We strive to juggle our many roles: mother, partner, professional, and individual with our own needs and desires. But this constant toggling can lead us to be too in our heads and disconnected from our bodies.

When this happens, our feminine nervous systems become overwhelmed, affecting our glandular system and hormones. Our health and well-being literally hang in the balance.

Yet above all else, one of the most challenging aspects of of motherhood can be learning to be kind to ourselves and receive the self-love we need to thrive.

As an expert meditation teacher and mother, I’ve experienced firsthand how self-love rituals can transform our lives by helping us reconnect with ourselves and nurture our bodies and souls. And ahead, I share how you can do the same.

4 self-love rituals for busy moms

Here are my four tips to help you cultivate more self-love you can try today. Bonus: they're busy mom-friendly.

1. Embracing all parts of yourself

In a society that tells us we’re not enough, embracing every aspect of ourselves is a revolutionary act. We're conditioned to feel inadequate and constantly strive for unattainable ideals: to stay stuck in a youthful appearance while being the best mom, partner, and career woman possible. In meditation, we can create a sanctuary to let go of all that and welcome and integrate all parts of ourselves without judgment.

To do this ritual, simply state this positive affirmation at the beginning of your meditations and throughout the day whenever you need the reminder: “I welcome all parts of me.”

When we suppress certain emotions or aspects of ourselves, we only cultivate more inner disapproval, criticism, and bullying. But, when we offer kindness and compassion to ourselves, we discover that beneath them lies a small child longing for safety, love, and acceptance. This is true self-love in action: nurturing ourselves with the same compassion we would offer a child.

2. Creating an inner sanctuary

As mothers, we’re often juggling our family's well-being while feeling deep pain and concern for the state of the world. This emotional labor can leave us drained, overwhelmed, and longing for the space to relax and rejuvenate.

Through meditation, we can create this inner sanctuary—a safe space away from external pressures where we can let our guard down and release fear and worry. In this sanctuary, there's no judgment from the outside world or from ourselves. We can practice receiving and being nurtured by tuning into our body's felt sense of care.

So, how can you do that?

Try this ritual: Close your eyes for 30 seconds and imagine how your body feels when you're getting a massage, taking a warm bath, or relaxing on the beach. Pick one and let yourself go there, imagining what you feel, see, taste, smell, hear, and touch. Even if you can't physically do these things every day, simply recalling those memories during a quick break can help you feel emotionally and physically renewed.

3. Trusting your inner GPS

Sometimes, we overextend ourselves to ensure those around us are comfortable and happy. As a result, we end up abandoning our own needs. So a powerful yet simple self-care ritual is to place one hand on your heart and another on your lower abdomen. Then, close your eyes and take a deep breath. And finally, ask yourself: "What am I desiring? What feels good?"

This ritual lets you honestly tune into what you want and what’s good for you. If someone asks you to do a last-minute favor but you’re already over-extended or don’t want to, you could feel into your heart and womb, take a deep breath, and let your body give you a full-body yes or no. Then kindly express if you’re available for that—or not.

When you start saying no to things that drain you and make room for those that bring you joy and connection, you'll build self-esteem and dignity in the long term. And as a result, you’ll effortlessly spread that positive energy to your family and friends.

4. Supporting your emotions through movement

Self-love isn't just about pampering—it can also mean supporting yourself through movement.

What does that look like? Well, if you're feeling agitated, you can identify the sensations aloud: "My head feels tight, my hands are clenched, and there's a weight on my chest." Then, let your body express itself through movement and sound. Dance, shake, or sway—whatever your body wants to do. You can turn it into a moving meditation by first setting an intention to let this movement shift your state of being.

This ritual allows you to embody your emotions fully, learn from them, and tend to your inner landscape. By giving yourself permission to be fully you, you'll deepen your self-understanding and reconnect with your authentic self.

Embrace self-love with support from the Balance app

Integrating these self-love rituals into your daily routine is not just about treating yourself—it's about transforming your mental and physical well-being. Dedicating a few minutes each day to your emotional and spiritual nourishment can dramatically enhance your sense of vitality and well-being, which are both essential to being the best woman and mom you can be.

To support your journey, I suggest using tools like the Balance app, which offers guided meditations and self-care strategies tailored to your needs. Download Balance now and get your entire first year for free.

By consistently applying these practices, you'll not only improve your own life but also become a source of strength and joy for those around you. After all, self-love is the foundation that allows us to live fully, love deeply, and give generously.

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